I miss my blogging world! My goodness, we have been busy around here.
First off, no one told me that once my son turned three, I would need to armor up because he and I were headed to battle. How dare I ask him to try to potty before we leave the house, how dare I. You guys, I cannot let this tiny boy win, when does it end? Secondly, no one told me my Kindergartener would have homework every night that she cannot do herself...hmmm...Lastly, having a job during the work week means every single day M-F. Every day! Not just the mornings you feel like going, but every morning! You guys, what is this??
This fall brought a sweet life change for all of us. Both kids are in school and I'm teaching, I barely recognize my life. Having spent five years at home with my babies, I didn't realize what a shift this would be for all of us. It's like we all live in the actual world now, instead of our "house-world" that was a bit more comfy, controllable and made me a little crazy too.
I'm learning a lot in this new "outside world" environment. One of my big lessons right now is that I really do get to chose my attitude. ( can't you just hear your mom saying this to you?) I often repeat to myself, "I have a choice."
Mel Robbins (video below) talks about our brain and how we can live in auto-pilot our entire life. This is how I have always been, or this is how I always do it, "it's fine." If we want change our attitude, behaviors or anything really, we have to pull up on the emergency break. We have to re-wire our brain and teach it how to stop and make a different choice. Emergency breaks are abrasive, shocking and unnatural to our life rhythm. It's easier to continue in the comfortable, have you ever had your car in cruise control?
You have a choice to say yes or no, you get to chose what you eat, say, express, live for, run after. You get to chose if you exercise, complain, love, gossip, forgive, invite others in, listen to music, see the sky. Will there be forces against you? Yes. The highway is all set at cruise control at 70 mph and throwing that break on means risk and change.
Bedtime with kiddos is really hard for me. I much prefer the buzz of the morning. My energy runs low around 4pm every night. Needless to say, when my children ask for one more book or to rub their backs..I want to, I really do, but I also very much don't want to. The other night I told my daughter I could not lay with her any longer because I was exhausted. This was very true. I walked out of her room and down the hall. I have a choice, I can choose to veg in front of the TV or make my daughters night by laying with her a while longer. I felt the emergency break as I pulled it. I turned around and cannonballed into her quilts. She later told me that was the best night ever. This example makes me look really good, I will save the bad choice examples for a later date, or never. lol, but you get the point.
I leave you and I with this.
What will we choose today? Will we choose kindness, even if we're the only ones? Will we choose to listen and care for ourselves and others? Will we choose to set just one goal?
Love to you, sweet friends of mine.